As some of you know I have been offering one card tarot readings on my Facebook page each Monday night for the last few weeks, to help me develop my reading skills for future endeavours.
The more I submerge myself into this practice, the more I am learning about myself, about my capabilities, as well as my not-so-clear intentions!
I want to take this opportunity to teach you how to best prepare yourself before you ask for a reading (from myself or anyone else!) which in turn is going to help me greatly with clearly portraying my intentions with clients in the future.
I guess I want to be less of a “fortune teller” and more of a “mystic mentor” – a mystic is someone who sees more to life than what is usually perceived, someone who has formed a union with the universe, in order to exchange truths about ones existence/truth/journey. As you all should know by now, I’ve embarked on a bit of a spiritual adventure in the last 12 months, and I guess I consider myself a bit of an alchemist; a mystic-in-training.
That said, I also feel driven to help others – at my very core, this is what makes me most at peace.
With my readings – my intentions are that I want to help you, to provide insight into situations you encounter on your journey – helping you to see something in a new light. To heal, to inspire, to support and to motivate. I have absolutely no right to tell you whether or not your going to have a baby this year or not; nor do I claim to have the ability to predict your future. (That’s more of a psychic thing).
So, lets start this again – shall we? Let’s set some clear ground rules for future readings together, so that we can all have the purest of intentions, and to really make the most out of my free services right now.
How to ask the right question in a tarot reading:
1. Firstly, you need to keep the question open – it cannot have just a yes or no answer
example – *Will I get the job I applied for? (NOT GOOD)
Instead, ask *Can you give me more insight into what I need to know about my next career move (GOOD!)
Need help? Here are some great ways to start your question, without it ending up being a yes or no type deal…
* Can you provide me with further insight towards….
* What do I need clarification on in regards to…..
* What was the meaning of….
*How might I know when….
* What was the lesson to be learnt from….
* How can I improve upon my chances of……
2. Please avoid questions relating to time – eg when is my house going to sell? and also avoid starting questions with SHOULD you do something…. this is still a yes or no question.
3. Another thing to consider is the level of detail you want to share – I understand in a public forum, it’s instinct to be more vague so the noisy parkers don’t learn something new about you, but there is a key to finding a happy medium here.
too specific: How can I tell John he no longer has the job?
too vague: How do I tell that individual what I intend to do?
best, neutral question: What do I need to know about John’s further involvement within the company?
4. the trick is to not already have a desired outcome in mind.
When will I get pregnant? – as in, you want to be pregnant. This is moving toward the fortune tellers land…we don’t want to go there anymore!
What do I need to know about my reproductive health at this time? – This shows that the question is neutral, you want to gain further insight into why or why not something is happening/not happening.
5. Then there is also another key point to consider – to always ask a question about your own life, not someone else’s. You are the focus!
So, in summary – here’s the key points to remember:
AVOID QUESTIONS THAT RESULT IN A YES OR NO ANSWER
FIND A HAPPEN MEDIUM WITH LEVEL OF DETAIL IN YOUR QUESTION
STAY NEUTRAL – DON’T ASK A QUESTION YOU HAVE ALREADY MADE YOUR MIND UP ABOUT
AVOID ANYTHING THAT SOUNDS LIKE IT REQUIRES SOME SORT OF FUTURE PREDICTING!
KEEP YOURSELF AS THE FOCAL POINT – DO NOT ASK ABOUT OTHER PEOPLES LIVES
This is specifically to do with the one card readings I have been offering for free – with regards to different spreads you will be required to ask different questions and provide different information; but this is a great beginners guide to understanding what the essence of tarot is – and how to get the best response that will resonate with you the most.
It also protects me, because I have been naively answering most, if not all questions that have been thrown my way, and this has ended up with me being more of a fortune teller, which is not my truth. It doesn’t mean it won’t pan out or that anything bad will happen, I simply want to move away from that direction and establish clearer ground rules for moving forward with this.
I encourage you to come to me and ask the tarot and the universe for clarity, insight and wisdom. Anything else, please know that I love you, but I won’t be going there anymore! It is not capturing the essence of what I’m about.
I hope this has cleared things up for you, and look forward to seeing your thoughtfully prepared questions for the readings to come!
Love, light & mystics-in-training